Do You Need Spring Cleaning For Your Relationships?

By · Saturday, March 12th, 2011

Spring Clean­ing for Your Relationship(s)” 

By Dr. Cindy Brown

Spring is sea­son­al­ly a time of new begin­nings for plants and ani­mals. It’s also a time for humans to start assess­ing what has hap­pened pre­vi­ous­ly in the first quar­ter and to deter­mine if you want to con­tin­ue that for the rest of the year.

I think it’s a great time as well to look at your relationship(s) and cleanup, or clean out what is not work­ing and plant some­thing new that will grow and har­vest through­out the rest of the year. Here are some steps you can take that can help you clean-up your rela­tion­ships so they are more ful­fill­ing:

Take an Inven­to­ry: Ask your­self right now- is your rela­tion­ship the way you want it to be? Look at your per­son­al as well as your rela­tion­ships at the office and with friends and fam­i­ly. Be hon­est with your­self, dig deep­er, this is the first step to cre­at­ing change and hav­ing the rela­tion­ship of your dreams!

Write a list of all the things, issues you don’t like in the rela­tion­ship. The issues you are angry or frus­trat­ed about, The things you are not get­ting or that you want instead, The things that dis­hon­or you, The issues that take away your abil­i­ty to be lov­ing or kind to the oth­er per­son.

Pri­or­i­tize each issue you’d like to dis­cuss and change using a range of  1–10; 1 being most impor­tant, to 10 being least impor­tant. Deter­mine for your­self what issues are the most urgent or most impor­tant to your hap­pi­ness and the suc­cess of the rela­tion­ship? Write this num­ber next to each one so you will know what to dis­cuss first.

Arrange a time to dis­cuss your list with the per­son involved in the rela­tion­ship with you. Make sure you ask to dis­cuss this list with love and/or kind­ness and com­pas­sion. First describ­ing to that per­son what you want to say and do, how long it will take and then ask­ing what time that per­son will be avail­able for this. This way the per­son is pre­pared and has agreed and hope­ful­ly will be more open to lis­ten­ing and par­tic­i­pat­ing in this dis­cus­sion.

Hire a Rela­tion­ship Spe­cial­ist and Coach like me to help you with all of the above if you can’t do it your­self. I will help you dis­cov­er your chal­lenges and needs, cre­ate your list, help you dis­cuss togeth­er the dif­fer­ent issues and chal­lenges you may have, teach you com­mu­ni­ca­tion and lis­ten­ing skills and last­ly help you both cre­ate a plan for change and sup­port you through that grow­ing, learn­ing and mov­ing for­ward phas­es.

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These are just a few steps you can imme­di­ate­ly take dur­ing this Spring Clean­ing-up your Rela­tion­ships Sea­son so you can have more suc­cess­ful and ful­fill­ing rela­tion­ships NOW! There are more advanced strate­gies you can par­tic­i­pate in, how­ev­er these are the begin­ning steps you must explore and do, so the floor is clean enough to move for­ward. Hap­py Clean­ing-up!

Remem­ber: In order to be the per­son you have nev­er been, in order to have the life and rela­tion­ships you have nev­er had, You must do what you have nev­er done before: Give me a call 310–202-1610 or email me at so I can sup­port you fur­ther!

© 2007–2011 Dr. Cindy Brown

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