Posts Tagged ‘Vaentine’s Day’


Singles & Couples Are You Ready For V-Day?

Monday, February 4th, 2013

Singles & Couples Are You Ready For V-Day?”

By Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Dr.”

February is a winter month where a chill is in the air in many places across the U.S.…however the real chill is -the anticipation (for some people) of a day called Valentine’s Day.

YES Many don’t like this day, especially some singles and even some men!

BUT! There’s also much anticipation from those of us who are in a relationship, that good things are coming soon from our lovers, partners, boyfriends or husbands. Right?

At least you have faith it will turn out how you hoped for!

For those of you single or coupled who have fears, doubts or even dread it…I can help you navigate this time better than before with these tips!

As a behavior specialist and relationship coach for many years, I have heard the issues and problems that seem to arise before, during and after this day from singles and from couples alike. Let’s look at this mixed bag of expectations, feelings, thoughts and problems to help you negotiate and take care of yourself better this February 14th.

For those of you who are single, February can seem daunting and a yearly reminder that you are not coupled; possibly you judge yourself, beat up on yourself. You may even compare yourself to others or even act like the day doesn’t (more…)

Make This Valentine’s Day The Best Ever!

Monday, January 28th, 2013

MAKE THIS VALENTINE’S DAY YOUR BEST EVER!

by Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Doctor.”

Are you one of those people who dread VD or Valentines Day? Are you afraid it will not turn out exactly the way you want it to? Well I would like to help you change this attitude this Valentine’s Day with a few simple strategies I teach my clients all the time.

Whether you are in a relationship, or you are single (see #5). It really can be a nice celebration of love and caring for yourself, or each other if you are sensitive to expectations, feelings, fears, wants and needs. Let’s look at the ways you can make it a “win win” for everyone!

1. Start out by initiating a conversation about Valentine’s Day today, this week (with yourself and/or with your partner)! It’s possible he/she hasn’t even focused on it yet, or forgot it is coming soon, or forgot on purpose to avoid uncomfortable feelings that he/she is not even conscious of. Don’t react to this, simply be pleasant and encourage a loving conversation. Explore gently what expectations either of you have about; the day or evening or both; gifts or no gifts; trips or stay at home, etc. and start to understand the tone of what your partner is feeling at this time about the event, so you can know how to proceed next.

2. Once you have explored #1 and you feel he/she is open to your suggestions, give your partner a list (more…)