Make This Valentine’s Day The Best Ever!

Monday, January 28th, 2013

MAKE THIS VALENTINE’S DAY YOUR BEST EVER!

by Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Doctor.”

Are you one of those people who dread VD or Valentines Day? Are you afraid it will not turn out exactly the way you want it to? Well I would like to help you change this attitude this Valentine’s Day with a few simple strategies I teach my clients all the time.

Whether you are in a relationship, or you are single (see #5). It really can be a nice celebration of love and caring for yourself, or each other if you are sensitive to expectations, feelings, fears, wants and needs. Let’s look at the ways you can make it a “win win” for everyone!

1. Start out by initiating a conversation about Valentine’s Day today, this week (with yourself and/or with your partner)! It’s possible he/she hasn’t even focused on it yet, or forgot it is coming soon, or forgot on purpose to avoid uncomfortable feelings that he/she is not even conscious of. Don’t react to this, simply be pleasant and encourage a loving conversation. Explore gently what expectations either of you have about; the day or evening or both; gifts or no gifts; trips or stay at home, etc. and start to understand the tone of what your partner is feeling at this time about the event, so you can know how to proceed next.

2. Once you have explored #1 and you feel he/she is open to your suggestions, give your partner a list (more…)