“How to Be a Better You; 5 steps to that result.”

Want to Be a Better You?
By, Dr. Cindy Brown

Do you feel or think your life controls you? Are you feeling dragged down, angry, exhausted, cheated, defeated and unhappy you don’t seem to know how to make it better? Would you like to know how to change some things so you can feel better about yourself? Would you like to “be” that “Happy” people say you “should be!” ? YES? Well today is your lucky day! How does it get any better than this! Ask – “What would it take for me to do these steps below?” Then start right now to do the steps below. Your one step closer….

1. STOP and take a closer look at what is REALLY going on. Make a choice to STOP the cycle and take some down time to survey how your basic needs are being handled; are you getting enough sleep, are you eating frequent nutritionally balanced meals, drinking enough water, getting enough exercise AND personal down time and space to think clearly and be able to do the next few steps in the process. If you never stop you can’t change a pattern and begin a healthier one. If you keep doing the same thing, you’ll get the same result…. Isn’t that INSANITY?

Lack of sleep affects your mood and metabolism, chemicals caused by inadequate sleep affect Serotonin (the feel good hormone) can cause depression, also affect Cortisol (the stress hormone) and affect fat storage. When you are depressed and gaining weight, you are not feeling or being your best! Inadequate nutrition affects; mood instability, weight Continue reading ““How to Be a Better You; 5 steps to that result.”” »

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How to Create What You Want in 2012: Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail!

How to Create What You Want in 2012: Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail!

By Dr. Cindy Brown

Why would you set off on a Journey without a map, plan, and vision of where you want to end up?

Adventure you say?…Well that’s like closing your eyes and just hoping you will hit the bull’s-eye in darts, when you Really, Really WANT to hit the center. Adventure may be fun when you have nothing to lose, you have all the money you desire AND all the time to waste.

However, if you have important desires and goals you want to accomplish NOW, I know you know you will need a roadmap and your energy put towards your ultimate goal of getting what you desire.

Research shows repeatedly that people who spend time to map out their goals and visions and spend the time to do the things to make them happen, get to their planned destination, accomplish their goals and have what they desire in their lives faster and easier.

Here are some helpful ways of creating that trail map to get you moving towards your vision and creating what you desire.

I. Inventory the previous year 2011 (your last map or plan)

Allow yourself some time to explore these questions; put music on, meditate, pray or think about each one and write down what you find.

• What did you accomplish? What are you proud of?

• What are you thankful for?

• What did you not complete that you wanted to?

• How different do you want this next year 2012 to look like?

II. Vision for Manifestation: Stay in that contemplative, meditative place and imagine yourself in the present year, walking through a forest path and you come across a bridge to a beautiful meadow and garden with a big pond. You bend down to look into this pond and you see your reflection and you begin seeing your present Continue reading “How to Create What You Want in 2012: Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail!” »

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Do You Judge and Beat Yourself up?

ARE YOU IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF?

Many of my clients come to me with symptoms of stress, physical pain and issues, anxiety depression and complaining that their lives are not going as planned or what they hoped for at this time in their lives.

DOES ANY OF THIS SOUND FAMILIAR TO YOU?

WHY IS THIS SO?

Many of us grow up around critical people (parents, caregivers, siblings, teachers, bosses, coaches) and so we get used to and familiar with negativity towards ourselves and thus begin to repeat that behavior which was demonstrated to us, and thus we end up beating up on ourselves for every little thing we do or don’t do in our lives. We judge and compare ourselves to others and are constantly criticizing ourselves, telling ourselves we are not good enough in some way! Do you realize this ruins your self esteem and ability to move forward and be successful

The good news is that you can reverse this! You ca learn to have a more healthy relationship with yourself and re-program yourself with positive self-talk and healthy patterns and success instead!

My first tool for you is my EMT™ system:
Did you know we all have a “committee” in our psyches made up of different parts; a positive part I call the Healthy or Higher Self (HS)and a Negative part I call read more here…

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How To Get Stuff Done.

Do you have a list either in your head or on endless pieces of paper that is ongoing, of stuff you have wanted to do, but keep putting off doing?

Well you are not alone!

We all have stuff we “seem” to want to do, but we continually find this thing we need to do or complete on our lists and not completed (including myself and my many coaching and therapy clients.)

Why is this you say? This is the million dollar question!

Well here is the million dollar explanation and 4 tips to complete all those tasks and/or goals that you don’t seem to be able to check off on your “to do” lists.

One reason is that we may only complete tasks we want to, or need to, that have a pleasurable payoff; meaning- we move towards pleasure and avoid pain or discomfort. You will complete tasks that are more fun or comfortable before others that are not. Examples: You may only pay your bills to avoid paying a late charge, you may only do your laundry when you have no underwear or socks left, you may only cold call some potential new clients when you are running out of money or your client base is shrinking, you may only lose weight if you need to go to a reunion, wedding or if your doctor has told you you may be risking your health or even death eventually! When the payoff is high and the comfort or fun level is higher we seem to complete tasks more easily!

So then we must make the tasks we have procrastinated on but want to or need to complete more fun, more pleasurable with a bigger payoff to us!

My Tips for completing tasks: (1.) Do less fun tasks before you do more pleasurable tasks: Make your cold calls, pay your bills, make important phone calls, before you visit FaceBook or post to your blog or watch your favorite T.V. show.
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Stress Relief Tips

Stress is a perceived issue many people have because of how they experience and “Do” or behave in the world, their lives, tasks, responsibilities around them.

You can work on not perceiving your world stressful, then you will have less or even no stress, depending how often you practice particular ways of reducing your stress:

1. Think Twice:

Your conscious mind will automatically respond to what you perceive in front of you or think about according to what you have previously experienced in your past, and our collective unconscious(what everyone else has experienced). Your mind will search for meaning and then you will automatically have a reaction. It takes deliberate practice then to think again to have a less meaningful response…less stress! And then you can CHOOSE a different calmer response and your body will feel peace!

2. Organize your life in a Balanced Manner:

We can have less stress when we balance our lives with many options: work, personal time, family time, exercise, friends, activities, community & charity and quiet contemplation time and planning time. The least stressful people or those that plan there life where they have opportunities for different activities in an calm organized manner. Hire a life coach or therapist to help you if you have difficulty with this concept and the actual planning of your time and life. Continue reading “Stress Relief Tips” »

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How To Start Out The New Year Right, Part 2

“Part 2, Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail! Make 2011 a Fantastic Year for You!”

By Dr. Cindy Brown

Last blog post I gave you Part 1 of this article (scroll down to read part 1.) We looked at these beginning steps to planning and creating the life of your dreams:

I. Inventory the previous year (your previous map or business or life plan or goal sheet)

II. Vision for Manifestation- look and see what you want?

III. PLAN NOW! Or Plan to Fail! Write down your goals

The next 4 steps are essential to this creation and manifestation process. Let’s look at how you can take a goal to completion and have even more happiness and success this year!

So you have your goals written down in each category, RIGHT!!

Now…

IV. Write a completion date next to each one of your goals to give yourself an end point to work towards and to hold yourself accountable. Now rewrite each goal as if it has already happened. For example: if my goal is to have a healthy relationship by June 2011. I would rewrite my goal statement as- “It is June 1st, 2011 and I am walking hand-in-hand with my mate along the beach. I am so happy and grateful we have each other.” When we write our goals this way we energize our life and signal to the universe it is already done. We then take it a step forward and act as if it is already done by feeling the feelings consistently as if it is already done.

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How To Start Out the New Year Right

“Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail! Make 2011 a Fantastic Year for You!”By Dr. Cindy Brown

Why would you set off on a Journey without a map, plan, and vision of where you want to end up?

Adventure you say… Well that’s like closing your eyes and just hoping you will hit the bull’s-eye while playing darts, when you really, really WANT to hit the center. Adventure may be fun when you have nothing to lose, you have all the money you want and need AND all the time to waste.

However, if you have wants and needs financially and something you want to accomplish NOW, you will need a roadmap and your positive, focused energy directed towards your ultimate goal. You will need to understand what it looks like completed and practice seeing that vision along with the feelings that you will have when you complete it.

Research shows repeatedly that people who spend time to map out their goals and visions and spend the time cultivating, making them happen, get to their planned destination… As I learned on my holiday ski vacation one year.

Here are 3 (out of 6) tips to creating that trail map to get you moving down the hill towards accomplishing what you want this year. Continue reading “How To Start Out the New Year Right” »

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